I have a strong anti-spanking bias. I formed it based on my own experiences as a child who was occasionally spanked, but it was really honed during my years as a family-support worker, when I used to make home visits to troubled families. Here in a nutshell are my three reasons for NOT spanking our kids.
- The madder you get, you can only hit harder. Where does this lead? And where does it end?
- You’re teaching that “might makes right” – that violence against those weaker than you is okay. Is this the message you want to get across?
- It doesn’t work! Kids tend to remember the spanking, sure – but not the infraction. Not to mention, how does this teach or model correct behaviour? It doesn’t.
My belief is that spanking is assault. It is a form of child abuse. There are much better ways to teach children right and wrong.